MySQL, to correctly render the SET clause among multiple columns
with the same name across tables.  This also changes the name used for
the bound parameter in the SET clause to "<tablename>_<colname>" for
the non-primary table only; as this parameter is typically specified
using the :class:`.Column` object directly this should not have an
impact on applications.   The fix takes effect for both
:meth:`.Table.update` as well as :meth:`.Query.update` in the ORM.
[ticket:2912]

reflection now updates the PKC in place.
- support the use case of the empty PrimaryKeyConstraint in order to specify
constraint options; the columns marked as primary_key=True will now be gathered
into the columns collection, rather than being ignored. [ticket:2910]
- add validation such that column specification should only take place
in the PrimaryKeyConstraint directly, or by using primary_key=True flags;
if both are present, they have to match exactly, otherwise the condition is
assumed to be ambiguous, and a warning is emitted; the old behavior of
using the PKC columns only is maintained.

now represents exactly the kwargs that were passed, and not the defaults.
the defaults are still in dialect_options.  This allows repr() schemes such as that
of alembic to not need to look through and compare for defaults.

- clean up some shenanigans in reflection

arguments; [ticket:2866]
- add dialect specific kwarg functionality to ForeignKeyConstraint, ForeignKey